My fella uses social media to look at pics of naked men and it's breaking my heart

DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband uses social media apps to look at other men and it’s like a dagger through my heart.

We are both men aged 32 and have been married for four years. He strayed twice in the early days, but we worked through it.

Our relationship and our sex life are good except that he looks at pictures of naked men. He doesn’t hide it and I am glad of that, but it also makes me feel that I am just not enough
for him. He denies that but it hurts so much every time I see he has saved more pictures of guys.

DEIDRE SAYS: You need to have a calm, serious talk about what these pictures mean to each of you.

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